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Something Ugly People Say....

Sometimes I look in the mirror and I actually like what I see.  Sometimes I don't.  I'm very aware that I'm not the "pretty girl".  I'm not sure if I ever will be.  I've come to terms with it and I'm ok with that.  I do like to think I make up for my looks with humor and a good personality.

I am, honestly, a firm believer in "looks aren't everything".  I do think personality is where it's at.  Somebody told me, not to long ago, "the people who say looks aren't everything are just ugly people trying to make themselves feel better".  Ouch....that was hurtful.

There are guys that I would call "hot".  However, in most cases (well, all but one case that I've come across), those "hot" guys are idiots.  One of the most attractive men I know has the personality of a rock.  I think it would be more fun to watch grass grow than going on a date with.  Yes, he's fun to look at but I'm sure my eyes would get tired after a while.

I have had 3 "serious" relationships.   Yes there has been a physical attraction.  However, I will be the first to tell you that is not why I dated them. None of them were Brad Pitt but I enjoyed being around them.  I had fun with them. The last two guys I dated we're great.  They were funny, nice and time with them was enjoyable, but you wouldn't find them on Peoples Most Beautiful people list.  That was ok with me.

If I feel that way.  Why is it that I still feel the need to be insecure about the way I look?  If I can see passed mullets, bald spots and a bad wardrobes why shouldn't I look for someone that can accept my flaws and see all the good in me?  Sometimes it's hard being the "fat" girl or the "average" girl.  Especially when you're surrounded by "pretty" girls all your life.  But I don't want to be defined by the way I look.  I'm a pretty awesome person.  I'm funny, I'm smart, I can carry on a conversation with just about anyone.  I would rather have someone be attracted to me for what I am not what I look like.

And if you think that's just something "ugly people say to make themselves feel better", oh well.

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